Here's how to attract and date women, all in plain, easy to understand language.

PLAYBOY’S PLAYBOOK

How in 30 Days an Ordinary Guy can attract more Women that he did in the Last Year.

Basic techniques and tactics necessary to become a Secret Playboy.
By Jacob Milano

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INDEX

Introduction

This book is based on the seduction process between men and women. What we see in movies and TV regarding love and relationships is rarely similar to what we have to do in real life to be able to have a girlfriend or just sex with a woman that we like.

Seduction is something that both men and women use to find their partners and involve in sexual relationships with them. However, most of the time, men are the ones who must seduce women. The reason for this is that women (and/or society) think that men should start the seduction game. Therefore, every man has to learn the different seduction techniques to be able to successfully seduce the women he wants.

This book is based on the knowledge that I have acquired through the years of pain and suffer. I’m not joking; and if you are reading this book, it is very possible that you have had the same painful experiences of being turned down and rejected by women time after time. So you know exactly what I’m talking about. The same knowledge allowed me to evolve from a regular guy with a very low self esteem and just dreams about having girlfriends to a man capable to attract and seduce women of any age, look, or social status, any time I choose to.

In most Chapters of this book, you will find references to my personal story, so you can have an idea of where all my knowledge comes from. At the same time, you can imagine yourself in my shoes and learn from my experiences in advance (from both the good and the bad ones). That way, you will know what to expect once you start doing it yourself and how to avoid stupid mistakes.

Always remember that you must understand how women think in order to be able to seduce successfully. If you know what they are thinking about, you will know exactly how to act.

Confidence and Humor are the two most important characteristics that women look for in men. If you can practice and have any one of them, you'll surely have a higher chance of successfully seducing women. The way you act and talk is also very important. Make women feel that you are a gentleman. However, try to avoid being too nice or too funny because you risk ending up being just a friend or look like a clown. Act a little mysterious to make her interested in you.

In this practical material, you'll find an introduction to all basic information necessary to succeed with women, from understanding how they think to knowing how to behave in specific situations. You'll learn about the tactics and techniques you can use to seduce women. In addition, you'll find the things you must and must not do when you are in front of a woman.

After reading this book, you will need to practice the techniques you learned in order to master the art of seduction in very short time. If you want to meet and seduce the woman of your dreams or simply date many women at the same time, start with making little changes. If you make little changes every day, in a month you will be a totally different you, what I call a "better bigger you."

If by the end of reading this book you have any comment or question that you want to share with me, please send an email to: info@playboysplaybook.com. I really appreciate your feedback.

Alert: As you may figured it out by now, I am a Latin American and my native language is Spanish. So if you find any grammar or other types of mistakes in this book, please, let me know and write an email to jacobmilano@playboysplaybook.com.

What is seduction?

Seduction is the process by which a man attracts a woman whenever he wants to. It's creating an environment in which a woman can be tempted.

The term "seduction" is very often applied to the stimulation of sexual desire with the main purpose of charming or attracting a woman and making her do what the seducer wants. In this situation, a man doesn't necessarily have to be in love with a woman; sexual attraction is the main factor in seduction.

A person can use several types of techniques to attract and seduce women. Of course, the techniques used will depend on the situation and the characteristics of a particular woman.

A large number of social behavior experts think that seduction is a unique type of persuasion. Some even describe seduction as a skill that depends on intellectual ability, and not on physical attractiveness, money, or fame.

If you want to take a woman to bed, you'll need to create a situation in which she feels attracted to you. What do you need to create this situation? You need to seduce the woman by creating attraction, to the point that she can no longer contain her uncontrolled sexual desire for you. The most important thing you must remember about seduction is that you have to improve your sex appeal. If a woman doesn't find you sexually attractive, there's no chance you can get her in your bed.

I remember the first time I realized what seduction really means. At that point, I have not successfully seduced any woman yet, but I was working hard to get it done. Once I was at my friend's birthday party with many young people including pretty girls. There was one girl that I noticed right away. I was doing everything I needed to do in order for her to like me. I was mysterious, I showed her my higher value, I made sure she felt comfortable; but after talking to her for couple of hours, she did not seem to realize any of my efforts, until the point that I basically gave up. I decided to talk to my friend instead. And just at that moment, when I could not care less about what she thought about me, she approached me again. She asked me how I could contain this incredible connection between us. I could see that she was a little nervous. She was smiling with her eyes and I noticed that she was flirting with me. And then, suddenly, she put her arms around my neck and kissed me. At that moment, I not only felt pleasure from kissing her warm lips, but I also realized that I had absolute control over her. That was my first true seduction moment.

So what did I learn from this? Even though I thought that I was doing all the right things, I was missing one significant ingredient, which was not to be into her too much. And I realized that because as soon as I backed up, her attitude changed. Of course, she was accustomed to lots of attention from other guys who were telling her how beautiful she was; and in the beginning, I was one of these guys.

You should know that the majority of women are very selective about the men they sleep with. Therefore, men need more tips and advice about seduction than women. Most men don't know how to correctly have a conversation with a woman; and even if they do, they don't know what to say and what not to say.

Seduction techniques are different for every woman. One technique can work perfectly with one woman, and still fail with another. To know which technique to use, first, you must know the personality of the woman and her way of thinking. In order to successfully attract her, you have to make yourself attractive in the first place.

Seduction Today

It is still generally a man who approaches a woman; no matter how "equal" we are (or believe we are). Techniques and society may have changed, but the modern woman still likes to be chased. If you wish to learn how to seduce a woman, you should be able to maintain romantic conversations, have great language skills, be confident and know how to flirt correctly.

When you talk to a woman, you can find out what kind of personality she has. This will allow you to concentrate on what she likes to hear, which, in turn, will make the seduction process easy and effortless. You should always focus your attention on the woman you are with. Watch her body language. You can find out many things about her only by paying attention on what she says and how she says it.

The first time you see a woman you feel attracted to, you will find yourself in one of the following situations. It's very important for your success to recognize them immediately in order to take advantage of them.

You only have a few minutes to attract and/or seduce her – Imagine that you see a really attractive woman in a coffee shop and want to meet her. In this situation, you must act quickly and let her know that you are attracted to her. Otherwise, you will lose this opportunity and the chances to randomly see her again are very slim.

A very important thing to do is to make a connection with her and to show that you are a person that she can trust. Make a quick conversation that is very pleasant for her and ask for her email address or phone number.

When I go to the supermarket or Starbucks, I meet a lot of women. One of the approaches I use is to comment on the drink or food they are consuming and quickly with an excuse of leaving soon (which often is true) ask for their phone numbers and/ or emails.

You have a few hours to attract and/or seduce her – Here you have at least a few hours to approach a woman. You have two options. You can try to seduce her; but if you do so, you have to move from one seduction phase to the next one more quickly. Utilize your time as best as you can. The second option will be to relax, have good time, make her feel attracted to you with your body language and your conversation skills, and create a strong connection between two of you. So next time you meet her, you can advance even faster in the seduction process. An example of this situation is when you meet a woman on a plane or in a party.

Every time I fly, especially when I am flying back home, I try to meet new women. Normally, the hours on a plane are pretty boring. But when I find a female passenger or even fly attendant to talk to, not only my flight is pleasant but also most of the times I walk out of the plane with a phone number.

You have a few days or weeks to attract and/or seduce her – Here you can take your time to attract and seduce a woman. Nevertheless, make a move within reasonable time after the first encounter. A good example of this situation is when you meet a woman how goes to your gym or who works in the store that you visit frequently.

When I know that I am going to see an attractive woman more than once, like in the gym, I tend to be a little more patient but, at the same time, try not to lose a good opportunity. Keeping that in mind, the gym is the place where you can find more than one hot girl. So be careful in making a move that will be too obvious for others to notice because that may jeopardize your chances with other women.

So what did I learn from this? Every opportunity has a value on its own. If you know how to recognize them and utilize them, you chances of seducing women will double.

Make Yourself Attractive to Women

When you are with a woman, act accordingly with the image of "gentleman" you want to create for yourself.

Attracting and seducing women is not a difficult task at all if you know what you are doing. It all depends on your attitude and what you think about. Our mind plays a very important role in the seduction process. Let's see how it works.

You have everything you need to attract and seduce women. You just have to let your mind know that you have the power and confidence to do it. You have sex appeal and control over any situation. Saying it to yourself is not enough, you have to believe it. If you do so, you'll see how women will be drawn to you like to a love magnet.

There's a specific area of our brain, working 24 hours a day. This area is your subconscious mind, and it will execute any instruction you give to it.

When you tell your subconscious mind that you are the kind of guy that drives women crazy, you'll find that you are full of confidence and sex appeal. By doing this, you subconsciously convince yourself that you are capable of attracting women and that there's nothing that can stop you from doing that.

The first time I heard this concept, I thought it was crazy. Subconscious mind? What are these people talking about? But then I met two guys that were very successful with women and in other areas of their lives such as money and health. Both of them told me about the power of the subconscious mind. All they had was due to the fact that they trained their subconscious mind to believe in what they wanted to achieve. At that point, I realized that it was not such crazy idea and I began practicing. Things started to change for better right away.

So what did I learn from this? Well, really simple. Even though sometimes I cannot see the outcome or I just don't believe in something, it is worth to have an open mind and try new things.

Here are some tips that you should always keep in mind when you want make a woman to be attracted to you. Every single man who is successful with women uses these tips.

Consider yourself attractive and important – If you feel that you are unattractive, you will communicate these feelings to any woman. This negative thinking affects your body language and the way you behave. Therefore, you should start telling yourself that you are an important and attractive man.

Be funny and have things to talk about – There are situations in which men approach women without even knowing what to say. When you approach a woman, never talk about her job, or the weather, or sports; instead, start with a simple and fun conversation.

Be brief in your comments. – Talking too much can make a woman think that you only care about yourself. Many times talking too much is a sign of insecurity and nervousness. Try to keep a moderate conversation, and, even more important, make a woman talk about her.

Never ask too many questions. – When you are with a woman and don't know what to say, you may start asking too many questions. If she answers your questions, more likely, she is just being polite. Don't confuse the fact that she is polite with the fact that you are doing right thing. A few questions make a conversation interesting, but too many can make the woman want to run away from you.

Try to understand her body language. – Many men don't consider necessary to know how to read body language, but a woman's body language will give you an idea whether she is interested in you or not. Knowing how to read women's body language will give you an advantage in the seduction process.

Know how to flirt. - The only way a woman notice that you are interested in her is when you send her a signal. By flirting with her, you are indirectly communicating your intentions. Using your body language will let her know that you are attracted to her.

Be confident. – When a man shows confidence, it's hard for a woman to resist feeling attracted to him. To not feel afraid to approach a woman or to not fear rejection is something that you can control. There are always risks in life; but if you take the risk, you may win the prize.

Make her feel comfortable. – When seducing a woman, it's very important that she feels good around you. If you make her feel important, attractive and sexy, it won't take long for her to feel attracted to you. As a result, you'll be getting closer to achieving your goal.

Have a good sense of humor. – Women love men who can make them laugh. If you have a good sense of humor, you have more chances of attracting and seducing the woman you like.
How Do Women Think?

Most men wonder what happens inside a woman's mind.

It's a known fact that men never understand the way women think. However, there's a way of thinking that's common to all women, and we are going to learn about it in this chapter.

When a woman sees an attractive man, her first thought could be "He's so sexy" or "He is so hot."

If you thought that only men think this way, you were mistaken. However, when a woman sees an attractive man, it doesn't mean she will approach him. When a woman is really interested in a man, it is easy to notice her constantly looking at him and sending signals with her body language. If the man is also interested, he'll do the same.

Never let a woman consider you as a "very nice" guy if you want to seduce her, because she'll be willing to be your friend, but not more than that. She may go out with you, but you'll only be a "good friend" (just like her girlfriends) who helps her with advises when dating other men. However, this doesn't mean you have to be or act rude in any way.

Women feel attracted to men who they consider mysterious and hard to figure out. If a woman sees a man that looks mysterious to her, she will wonder why this man behaves the way he does. This will attract her. Women cannot resist the challenge of knowing more about mysterious men.

If a woman is attracted to you, you'll notice it. One of the signs is that she will not be able to take her eyes off of you. Women are creatures that can notice a lot of things at first sight. The first thing they look at is your body language. By reading your body language, a woman can know a lot about your personality. For instance, if you are nervous, she will notice it. Women tend to watch body language about ten times more than men. If you want to impress her, you'll need to know how to act and behave in front of her.

Women love men who are filled with confidence. If a man approaches a woman confidently, he has a better chance of seducing her. To a certain point, confidence indicates power, and women love powerful men.

To know how women think is a very valuable tool in seducing a woman. When you don't have any inside information, it is hard to guess what a woman thinks because we are based on our own frame of mind. I have been lucky enough (preparation + opportunity = luck) to have met so many women who have taught me about how they think. This gets easier as you learn. The more women you have, the more you know about women. The more you know, the more effective your seduction becomes.
Using psychology to attract women

Attraction is described as a positive feeling one person feels for another. It may be in the form of admiration, love, friendship or lust.

The factors involved in attraction are physical appeal, proximity, and reciprocity. Although these are some of the factors that can make a person feel attracted to another, this is achieved by using psychology.

It's not easy to attract a woman you don't know well. And I am pretty sure you know that. However, you'll be able to get her attention if you use some of the principles of psychology. This will make the process of attraction and seduction a lot simpler and easier. By using these psychological principles, you can be sure that the woman you want to seduce will never reject you.

One of the principles of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Psychology) that you should know is what some call Mirror and Matching. Mirror and Matching consist in acting the same way the other person does. If a woman touches her face, you touch yours. If she crosses her legs, you should do the same. If she feels cold, you should agree that it's cold. You must be conscious when doing this because you don't want to look like you are imitating her. But if you do it successfully, she may think that you both have a lot in common.

Another NLP technique that I have used successfully is to classify woman's personality and speak to her from that point of view.

A woman's personality can be classified in three types:

The kinesthetic woman (a woman who possesses a faculty for kinesthetic imagery that is more distinct than her visual or auditory imagery) – Women in this category generally like exchanging thoughts through the sense of touch. These women believe that the best things or ideas can be determined through touching, or physical contact. Therefore, when you communicate with women in this category, emphasize words that are related to the sensation of touching, for instance, "it feels good", or "it's as soft as a feather".

The visual woman (a person who possesses a faculty for visual imagery that is more distinct than her kinesthetic or auditory imagery) – Women in this category are stimulated by things they can see with the eye of their mind. When it comes to these women, focus on image elements. Use related words and phrases, like "What a great view", or "Look what a beautiful evening", etc.

The auditory woman (a person who possesses a faculty for auditory imagery that is more distinct than her visual or kinesthetic imagery) – Women in this category are stimulated by what they hear. If you talk to this kind of women, make sure you emphasize words related to hearing, so she can get closer to you. In other words, you need to stimulate her mind focusing on sound each time you speak. For instance, "it sounds good", or "that's music for my ears"...

Now that you know the different types of women's personalities; how can you identify them?

Determining a woman's personality is not difficult at all. Make her talk about anything that requires a description. When she's talking, focus on the words she uses. Find the words each woman tends to use more frequently. This way you'll be able to find out the woman's personality, and communicate with her appropriately.

When you talk to her the way she does, she'll open up to you. It won't take long for her to feel connection and attraction.

The reason behind this fast attraction resides in the fact that women have the subconscious idea of her "other half" or "made for each other" presupposition. When she starts seeing you as her "other half", you will no longer be a stranger to her. She'll feel that she has known you forever, and that you can understand her better than anybody else.

Before I knew about NLP, it was very hard for me to make a woman feel connected. I did not know what to say, how to say it; I always run out of words. I was really upset with the fact that I could overcome my shyness to approach girls, but when I did it, I did not know what to talk about. After I started using the techniques of NLP, I did not need to say much. Women loved to talk to me and they did not realize that all the talk was done by them. I was just listening; and surprisingly but true, they would say things like "This is the best conversation I've ever had with a man."

So what did I learn from this? One more time, even though I did not believe in any psychology "tricks", they do work. By suspending my disbelief, I learned about something that really useful and has helped me seduce many women since then.
Confidence

Confidence also plays a very important role in the seduction process. A confident man normally is successful and happy. When a man is confident, he does not need a woman to feel better about himself, and that way, women feel more attracted to him. Such man doesn't worry about rejection, because he knows that when one door closes, another one opens, and sometimes, many others. In simple words, we can say that a man is considered to be a playboy if he is both successful and happy.

How many playboys do you know who are unsuccessful and unhappy?

None!

Women don't like men who have no success in life. And they definitely don't even look at those who seem unhappy.

Now, the question is: How can you be successful and happy?

It is true that it's not easy to achieve success and happiness, but it's not impossible. There are certain factors that can give you success and happiness, and that will turn you into a women magnet.

These factors are:

1. Be generous. Women don't like cheap men.

2. Be optimistic.

3. Approach a woman without fear of rejection. The more confidence you show in yourself, the more attractive women will find you.

4. Smile. It makes people feel comfortable around you.

5. Use your sense of humor. Women like men who make them smile and relaxed.

6. Program yourself. Tell your unconscious mind that you can do this.
7. Believe. Have faith in yourself.

I used to be too conscious about the gap between my two front tees. Every time I laughed, I covered my mouth with my hand. I thought that no woman will be attracted to me, no matter how I was dressed, what I said, and how smart I was. On many occasions, there were girls interested in me, but I could not see it or believe it when my friends were telling me about it. Which girl would feel attracted to a guy with a gap between his tees? That gives you an idea how low my confidence in myself was. Until one day, the funniest thing happened in a book store. I was reading a story that made me laugh a lot and, of course, I immediately covered my mouth. One really hot girl next to me was choosing a book. She saw me doing "my move" and without any shame asked me whether I was covering the gap between my tees. I had no choice. I told her that she was right. She smiled and told me that I should not be doing it. She said that my gap was actually an attractive feature. I was very surprised. She made me practice couple of times by making me laugh and not allowing me to put my hand next to my mouth. (Understand, this really hot girl was flirting with me while she was doing that…I could not believe it!) Since then my confidence regarding my tees changed 180 degrees. I started to believe that my gap was a sexy thing.

So what did I learn from this? Sometimes, we invent things that are not worth worrying about. It's all in our mind and we can change it. If I would have decided myself that my tees were sexy, I could have my confidence long before the girl told me about it. So you should rethink your image of yourself.
Sense of humor

It's well known that women consider sense of humor the most attractive quality in a man. Every woman wants to date someone with an excellent sense of humor. There is no woman who doesn't like a man who will make her laugh. It has been said that if you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do almost anything you want.

I'm not the only one to consider sense of humor the most important factor involved in seduction; many other experts think the same thing. Therefore, if you are attracted to a woman and want to seduce her, you'll need to have some sense of humor. You want to make her laugh so she has great time when she is with you. If you look too serious, she won't feel comfortable around you. You must focus on light and funny conversations when starting a relationship or going out on the first few dates.

The first time you meet a woman; there will be some reservations between you two because you don't know each other very well. A good sense of humor is a key factor to break the ice. Most men that can make people laugh and have fun around them are the ones who attract more women.

If a woman has to choose between a man who makes her laugh and the one who takes everything too serious, obviously, she will prefer the one who makes her laugh as you will do the same if you are in her shoes.

Women like intelligent men. So, when a woman is with a man with good sense of humor, she normally will consider him intelligent. It doesn't mean that you have to be a comedian; just show your sense of humor and she will have a positive image about you.

If you have any friend who makes you laugh, you know what I'm talking about. This type of men are successful with women because they can make them laugh and have a good time.

The majority of women look for a man who has the ability to put a smile on their faces at all times. Remember that you have a better chance to take her to bed if you can make her laugh and forget about everything else that is going on in her life.

Not everyone is born with good sense of humor. What do these men do to attract and seduce women? Does this mean that such men will never be able to have a fulfilling sexual life? No. If you are one of these men, always remember that you still can have a good sexual life. You simply have to develop a good sense of humor, and the first step for this is to take advantage of every opportunity you have. In simpler words, when you have the chance to make people laugh, take that chance.

Developing a good sense of humor requires time and practice. On the other hand, you don't need to be funny all the time. There are occasions when you'll have to be serious and humor is not appropriate. If you make a joke at that moment, you may lose the advantage you have already gained with the woman.

Most men think they have good sense of humor; however we know this is not always true. There are some men who don't have sense of humor, but think they do. These men just don't realize they don't make the ladies laugh.

If you ask any playboy, he will tell you that a good sense of humor is a key element in seduction. If you use your sense of humor effectively, you'll be able to have more success with women.

There's no doubt that your seduction techniques can be improved substantially if you have an excellent sense of humor.

Even though neither I consider myself a funny guy, nor I have a long list of ready to tell jokes, every time I am in the company of my friends, I tell stories that come up very funny. Sometimes they laugh at the good story I just told and sometimes they laugh at me because I am such a bad comedian. But because I am in the company of my buddies, I don't care that sometimes my jokes are not funny. Once I was with a girl that I have recently met. I remember feeling very nervous because I wanted to make a very good first impression on her. I did not want to look stupid and make bad jokes. Knowing that I was not a good comedian, I decided to take a risk and imagined her as one of my good friends. Once I did that, incredibly, I started to have lots of fun and she did too. I think that was the first stress free first date ever.

So what did I learn from this? I learned that no matter how well prepared you may be or how much you have studied, when it comes to women, you have to be yourself, original, authentic, and, the most important, you have to have fun. By doing this, you transmit the same energy to a woman and she will feel and do exactly the same.

Common Mistakes

Men tend to make mistakes in front of women they want to attract and seduce. Let's review the most common mistakes men make and how to avoid them:

Trying to act like a very nice person. – Some men try to act like very nice people to attract women, but they rarely succeed. Women don't feel attracted to you because you are a nice guy. They are more interested in men that are self confident and have a good sense of humor than in men that are too nice (being too nice implies not being able to do uncommon things, which normally shows a lack of self confidence).

Always remember that being a very nice man doesn't create a powerful sexual attraction, and definitely doesn't make women fall for you.

It is hard to believe that if you are treating a woman in a nice way, being sweet and gentle with her, she will care less about you. In fact, she will feel annoyed by it. That happened to me with this special girl that I liked a lot. I treated her like a princess. I used to buy her presents and more. When I less expected it, she told me that she was dating another guy.

Trying to convince a woman to like you – If a woman is not interested in you, don't try to persuade her. The more you try to do it, the more she will get away from you.

To make her feel attracted, you must act in a totally opposite way, don't pay attention to her. That way she will feel curious about why you are not like the rest of men, and it will be easier to make her feel attraction.

This is definitely a stupid way to make a woman feel attracted to you. Once I met a girl that I liked a lot. I told her many reasons why she should have been my girlfriend, and they were really good reasons. But no matter what I said, the more I insisted, the more distant she was.

Looking for her permission or approval – In order to charm and persuade women, most men wait for their permission or authorization to do certain things. Men think that by doing what women want them to do, women will satisfy them later by doing whatever men want. They believe that it's like a game where he does something for her, and then she will feel obligated to do something for him.

This is a naïve belief because women definitely don't pay attention to men who wait for their approval or authorization at all times. However, this doesn't mean that you should be rude or treat her disrespectfully. Just be yourself and act normal.

Once I invited a girl for dinner and it was our first date. I asked her what restaurant she wanted to go to. When we got there, I asked her what she wanted to drink. When we were looking at the menu, I asked her to choose for both of us. I even asked her where she wanted me take her after dinner. At the end, I thought everything went well; but she never answered my phone calls again. I asked her friend way this girl did not want to see me again. She said that she did not like the fact that I could not decide on things on my own. She was looking for someone with his own personality. And I acted completely opposite to this.

Affection/love/attraction can't be bought. – If you think you can continuously impress a woman with expensive gifts and dining in fine restaurants, you are wrong. You will spend all your money and never find what you are looking for. A woman prefers the personality of a man over his money. It's common for some men to think that women are only interested in money. Yes, there are very few of this type of women and they are easy to recognize.

One day, I was in a mall with a girl that I just started dating. We went to different stores without looking for anything in particular. Then we went to little boutique with expensive sunglasses. She tried some of them and liked one pair a lot. When she went to the restroom, I decided to surprise her and bought this pair of sunglasses. After I gave them to her, instead of being happy, she got upset. She was insulted by the fact that I was trying to buy her affection. Even though she liked me in the beginning, our relationship did not continue for too long after this incident. She remained under impression that I was not respectful to her by trying to get her attention with money.

Telling a woman that you feel something for her after couple of dates – If you tell a woman that you really like her after just couple of dates, she may never answer your phone calls again. This approach may work in the movies and soap operas, but it doesn't work in real life. Women see this as a sign that you are desperate to take them to bed or a needy man. Therefore, never express your feelings at the beginning of the relationship.

I remember one girl that I felt instant connection with since first day I met her. We seemed to understand each other very well, we felt comfortable and open with each other; and I could not find any reason not to tell her about my feelings. On our third date, I told her that I was in love. I did not hear the same in return. After long silence, she told me that our relationship was evolving too fast and she felt that we needed to slow down. That was our last date.

Believing that women are attracted only to good looking guys – Don't think women only look for handsome men. It has been proven that women feel attracted to a man not only by his looks but also by his personality. There are other factors involved in attraction like the way you communicate and the way you behave.

When I used to live in Venezuela, I had a friend who was not good looking at all and was at least 100 pounds overweight. I knew he was a fun guy because I worked with him. He was the most popular guy in the office because he had great personality and made everybody laugh all the time. But I never thought about him as a person who would easily attract women. I was really surprised when I met his wife. She was gorgeous. I later found out that she was one of the leading models in Venezuela.

Talking about mistakes... I believe I am the one who have made them all, and not just once. Way more than once. When they happened, it was painful, embarrassing, disappointing, and frustrating. Nevertheless, I kept going forward with my plan to become a secret playboy. And today, every time I remember my mistakes, I laugh.

So what did I learn from this? If we learn from our mistakes and try not to do them again, we defiantly are going to succeed. I am not saying that it is easy. But if you learn from yours and other people’s mistakes (your friends and me), you will be on the right path to become successful with women.

Phases of seduction

These are the phases of seduction:

Phase 1: • Overcome your awkwardness and shyness and start an informal conversation with a woman so you can get to know each other and show her your pleasant personality.

Phase 2: • Be confident. Make her feel comfortable and secure by your side so you can have a deeper connection.

Phase 3: • Once she trusts you and believes that she knows you, develop romantic feelings for each other.

Phase 4: • Introduce physical contact in the relationship such as touching her hand or her face, kissing, and hugging.

Phase 5: • Feel a powerful sexual attraction.

Keep in mind that a seduction process may occur as fast as a few hours or it can take up to a few weeks.

Seduction Process

The seduction process works more or less the same for everyone. It's known that people have a powerful emotional reaction towards individuals of higher value. Individuals of higher value are these who have, or make believe they have a more important role in their social group. An example is the teacher in a group of people that practice karate. Other example is the funniest guy in the party. This can be shown in every single aspect of life, whether it's true or not. You can make yourself look as an individual of higher value by acting as one and not following but being the leader in a social group. Men have a strong reaction in front of a really attractive woman. They experience an increase in their levels of adrenaline and, as a result, they tend to behave in a "weird" way around attractive women. In this case, a really attractive woman is an individual of higher value or, at least, she is being treated as one.

A beautiful woman causes this kind of reaction in most men. As a result, a woman subconsciously looks for a man that is emotionally indifferent to her higher value. Therefore, she will feel attracted to him.

There are three basic elements or components in this process, which are:

1. Attraction.
2. Enjoyment.
3. Seduction

Each one of these components is divided in three phases, or stages. Let's take a look at them:

Attraction
Attraction phase 1 – In this stage, you should start a conversation with a woman, or induce her to start one. This is very important, and you shouldn't take the next step until you've established a good conversation.

If you see an attractive woman you like, you should approach her. Use descriptive body language to initiate a conversation with her. Make it brief instead of babbling a long story or telling her that you like her dress.

Attraction phase 2 – Many men think that attracting a woman is difficult. This is wrong, since doing it is rather easy. You have just to make use of certain techniques like showing a higher value and confidence in yourself.

Most of the times, this phase lasts from two to ten minutes. However, it may take up to 20 minutes with some women. Always remember, you must not compliment her on her looks in this phase. When she shows interest in you, you'll get to the next stage, phase 3.

Attraction phase 3 – Here you must let the woman know that you are attracted to her, but not only by her looks. If you show her that you are interested in her only because she is beautiful, she'll probably turn her back on you. This happens because every man that failed in seducing a woman tried this approach. By acting different, a woman may think that you are more interesting that you seem to be.

A woman will not date you if she thinks that you are "easy". She will think immediately that you act the same with every woman. If you play hard to get, you may find yourself being popular among women. When talking to a woman, talk about your life in general, and only if the situation requires it. Compliment her, but not on her physical appearance. It could be her taste or her intelligence.

Enjoyment

A comfortable environment is very important in the seduction process. Most women may need an hour or more before they can enter the first enjoyment phase, or "connection". At this point, the woman thinks that there is a connection between you two. This happens in the place where you first attracted the woman. Enjoyment phase 2, or "trust phase", will take place in a much more comfortable location. It may be the same day or on a different day. At this point, she will start trusting you because she thinks she knows you and there is a connection between both of you. Enjoyment phase 3, or "intimacy phase", will happen in the place where you will seduce her. At this point, there is attraction, connection and trust.

Seduction

Seduction phase one, or "stimulation phase", is the phase when you'll turn her on. You can achieve it by touching and kissing among other things.

Seduction 2, or "resistance phase", is the phase where she will try to resist because women don't like the idea of being too easy. In this phase, you need to convince her through your seduction techniques.

Finally, phase 3, is when you are in bed with her and ready for sex.

Always remember to seduce a woman in a place where there is no much destruction and you cannot be interrupted. If you are planning to seduce her in your home, make sure it is clean and organized. Many women can be turned off by the idea of dirty and messy place; and you don't want this to happen.

There are other things you can add to achieve more comfort. You can offer her exotic fruits, chocolates and wine. But don't show her that you prepare it in advance. She may feel disappointed by the fact that you were expecting to have sex with her.
Seduction Myths

Whether people admit it or not, seduction is not something every man is capable to do. Some men are experts in seducing women, and others just don't make an effort to learn how to seduce. In fact, seduction is not difficult at all if you have the right tools and guidance in this area. Let's take a look at some seduction myths:

Being rejected means that I'll never be able to seduce a woman. – Many men who have been rejected by a woman think they won't be able to approach and seduce other women. This is just a myth, there are many men who have been rejected and then seduced many women.

Just because a woman rejects you, it doesn't mean that all of them will. Maybe the woman who rejected you didn't feel attracted to you at that moment; this is a very common situation and happens all the time. You just have to remember that there's no men that hasn't been rejected at least once in his life. You should not allow that rejection affect your sex life in a negative way.

I can't seduce anyone. – If you think you don't have what it takes to seduce a woman, you are wrong. Each and every one of us has been born with the ability to learn and master the seduction techniques.

You may have not discovered them yet, but that doesn't mean that you can't seduce a woman. How will you know if you are capable of seducing if you don't try? Be more confident in yourself. Try to seduce a woman you like. If you do the right thing, she'll be interested in you.

Women think I'm an idiot. – Both men and women have sexual lives, and no one thinks you are an idiot for trying to attract them. The relationship between a woman and a man usually start when the man approaches the woman in the first place. If the woman is not interested, she will tell him so. And then the man will try with another woman.

Women just don't like me. – If you think this way, you are showing a lack of confidence in yourself. There are many men who approach women with this kind of thoughts. No wonder they get rejected. There's nothing wrong with you, and there is no reason why she can't be with you. If you want to seduce a woman, first you have to have faith in yourself. Women are attracted to confident men, and there's no way she'll get close to you if you lack self confidence.

Build your self confidence before you approach any woman. You'll be able to seduce a woman only if you are convinced you can do it. Negative thinking definitely will not help you succeed.

It's important to give her lots of compliments in order to seduce her. – Women, and many men, like compliments, but they are not obsessed with them. Believe it or not, some women feel insulted if you just compliment them on their body, their looks or their clothes.

Some women don't worry about compliments because they feel that men flatter them just to get them into bed. So, next time you are with a woman you want to seduce, try not to compliment her too much, or you'll make her go away.

It's important that I look very creative and funny. – If you are not creative, women will know, they are excellent in reading your body language. Don't try hard to look creative or funny if you are not; there's a chance you'll end up looking stupid. Relax; if you are not comfortable telling jokes then there's no reason for doing it. Instead, you can do or talk about something you are good at.

By reading about all the seduction methods I'll immediately become a secret playboy – Reading about the different seduction methods will be useful, but you won't be able to master them if you don't try and practice. Besides, you can't turn into an expert in seduction in one or two days. You may need weeks or even months to become a secret playboy.

Women only care about money. – Not all women are after your money even though there are some women who only care about that. But they are very few. If there's no attraction, there's no way you can seduce a woman regardless of how much money you have.

Conclusion

A vast majority of men look for immediate rewards but they rarely get it. There are also us, who prefer to delay the rewards and work a bit harder than the rest. It's us who society calls "lucky people". In my opinion, luck is nothing but the sum of preparation and opportunity (preparation + opportunity = luck), and for the well prepared man opportunities are constant and infinite. If you are willing to invest your time and money, you will find yourself in a very good situation because you will be preparing to become a secret playboy. And once you do that, you will have the opportunities to meet new women every single day of your life. At that point, the rest of men, some of them your friends, will speak about how lucky you are (welcome to the club).

In almost every competition or test, there's a winner and an "almost winner", or loser (runner up), and the difference between them is always very small in the test itself; but the difference in preparation and practice is big. He, who spends time learning and values practicing, will come in the first place most of the times.

And now, after you read this book, you probably feel excited, as I felt when I learned all this information for the first time. I hope you enjoyed it.

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